‘My securities’ is an exciting part of me that I want to
share with you ladies out there. It is my reality and maybe yours too. It stems
out of my insecurities, you know the ropes. The thought that you not as pretty,
not as smart, not as sexy, not as rich etc. But I learnt that it never made me
better it just made me feel more sad and made me feel more unworthy. I also
learnt that I’m not the only one feeling like this and that there are more women
who are insecure. I’m talking rich and fabulous, celebrities, people I thought
are perfect in every way but at night they are like me: INSECURE. Who is this
baby we are nursing who seems to take away our confidence, our genuine smiles,
our calling and our uniqueness???? This baby blinds us from who we truly are
and what we are in the eyes of our creator. What father in the world would
create something ugly and unworthy?
The kind of women society portrays is impossible. There
is nothing like flawless but there is being flawless in your flaws that is, you
being comfortable in yourself regardless of what people say. Every flaw you see
on yourself makes you who you are. It distinguishes you from everyone. We are
different and I choose to own my difference. I choose not to look at the other
person but to look at myself and my imperfections. Nobody has them like I do
and I love them. I chose!!!! It is important to make a decision, either you
going to continue being unhappy with yourself or you going to stand up and face
the devil. Tell him that you are limitless, you are fearfully and wonderfully
made. At first it may seem like nothing but you eventually going to believe it and
then see it. “If you don’t like what you see, say what you want and you’ll see
what you want.” We can’t go back to un-create what has already been created. What
would we even ask? Where would you be?
Who’s going to fulfill your purpose, your journey and your calling.
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Girl, there’s nobody who can fake it like you do. There’s nobody who can perfect it
like you do. Everyone deals with their own skeletons. You hate your legs, I
hate my butt and she hates everything about herself the difference lies on how
each one of us deals with our insecurities. I look at myself in the mirror and
tell myself that there’s nothing wrong with me. I decided to love myself and
nobody’s going to take me away from that decision because I’m happy. If anyone
will try and make me feel inadequate they are out of my life. We can’t try and
please people because they will never be pleased. “The moment you feel like you
have to prove your worth to someone is the moment to absolutely and utterly
walk away.” –Alysia Harris
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Our insecurities
reflect on other people. If we can’t see ourselves as beautiful we will not see
others. In a way when we get to set ourselves free from insecurities we get to
free others around us as well. I know when I have nothing good to say about myself
I’m going to look at someone I think is doing worse. See what insecurities do,
they always compare you to someone else and in that comparison you are never
better. So you are going to say a whole lot of nasty things about the other
person so you can feel good about yourself but that will not make them
disappear. Self-love, acceptance, confidence and non-comparison will set you
free.
So this February there’s a baby we
are laying to rest and another we are awakening. We are awakening self-love and
confidence and laying down insecurities. Ladies we can’t give what we don’t have. Love
your neighbor as you love yourself. If we don’t love ourselves we can’t love
our sisters and brothers. Instead of looking for a valentine this month find a
valentine within yourself. It is amazing. Simply amazing.
Go on and start your journey of self-love.
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With Love
Khensani Godi (Relationships and fashion desk)
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