Breaking the walls of insecurities >>>>my journey to self-love

‘My securities’ is an exciting part of me that I want to share with you ladies out there. It is my reality and maybe yours too. It stems out of my insecurities, you know the ropes. The thought that you not as pretty, not as smart, not as sexy, not as rich etc. But I learnt that it never made me better it just made me feel more sad and made me feel more unworthy. I also learnt that I’m not the only one feeling like this and that there are more women who are insecure. I’m talking rich and fabulous, celebrities, people I thought are perfect in every way but at night they are like me: INSECURE. Who is this baby we are nursing who seems to take away our confidence, our genuine smiles, our calling and our uniqueness???? This baby blinds us from who we truly are and what we are in the eyes of our creator. What father in the world would create something ugly and unworthy?

The kind of women society portrays is impossible. There is nothing like flawless but there is being flawless in your flaws that is, you being comfortable in yourself regardless of what people say. Every flaw you see on yourself makes you who you are. It distinguishes you from everyone. We are different and I choose to own my difference. I choose not to look at the other person but to look at myself and my imperfections. Nobody has them like I do and I love them. I chose!!!! It is important to make a decision, either you going to continue being unhappy with yourself or you going to stand up and face the devil. Tell him that you are limitless, you are fearfully and wonderfully made. At first it may seem like nothing but you eventually going to believe it and then see it. “If you don’t like what you see, say what you want and you’ll see what you want.” We can’t go back to un-create what has already been created. What would we even ask?  Where would you be? Who’s going to fulfill your purpose, your journey and your calling. 

Girl, there’s nobody who can fake it like you do. There’s nobody who can perfect it like you do. Everyone deals with their own skeletons. You hate your legs, I hate my butt and she hates everything about herself the difference lies on how each one of us deals with our insecurities. I look at myself in the mirror and tell myself that there’s nothing wrong with me. I decided to love myself and nobody’s going to take me away from that decision because I’m happy. If anyone will try and make me feel inadequate they are out of my life. We can’t try and please people because they will never be pleased. “The moment you feel like you have to prove your worth to someone is the moment to absolutely and utterly walk away.” –Alysia Harris

Our insecurities reflect on other people. If we can’t see ourselves as beautiful we will not see others. In a way when we get to set ourselves free from insecurities we get to free others around us as well. I know when I have nothing good to say about myself I’m going to look at someone I think is doing worse. See what insecurities do, they always compare you to someone else and in that comparison you are never better. So you are going to say a whole lot of nasty things about the other person so you can feel good about yourself but that will not make them disappear. Self-love, acceptance, confidence and non-comparison will set you free. 

 So this February there’s a baby we are laying to rest and another we are awakening. We are awakening self-love and confidence and laying down insecurities.  Ladies we can’t give what we don’t have. Love your neighbor as you love yourself. If we don’t love ourselves we can’t love our sisters and brothers. Instead of looking for a valentine this month find a valentine within yourself. It is amazing. Simply amazing.

Go on and start your journey of self-love.

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Khensani Godi (Relationships and fashion desk)

Forgetting what is behind and pressing forward

A happy and prosperous New Year to you, I believe that God has better things in store for us in this season. God has already empowered you to succeed; you are equipped with all that you need to make it through this year no matter what the enemy throws at you. It gives me great joy to announce to you that we are overcomers in Christ Jesus, isn’t that amazing …..GLORY!!!!!

So in this post we will be talking about a few things that will help us keep our priorities straight and letting the main thing become the main thing, because if we want to see better results than those of 2013 we have to be prepared to make some serious changes. We all know that change is not easy because it needs serious commitment and discipline. And some people just don’t know how to go about making that change but I believe that this post will help shed some light.

Philippians 3

  
12 Not as though I had already attained, either were already perfect:  but I follow after, if that I may apprehend that for which also I am apprehended of Christ Jesus.   13 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended:  but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, 14 I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.  

I personally love this scripture because it helps me to put my life into perspective and encourages me to not live in the past but to allow the things that have past to be in the past but for me to focus on what is a head and not to remain stagnant in life over something that happened in the past.

Be Prepared to change and do things better

The Apostle Paul talks about forgetting things that are behind, which to me indicates a willingness to change and do things better. As we have entered into a new year we must be willing to put 2013 and its challenges even its successes in the past. We have entered into yet another season in our lives and if we want to move forward and actually participate in the blessings that come with this year we must forget the past and not even entertain it because we might find ourselves reliving 2013 in 2014 and actually miss out on the blessing comes with this year.

Your 2013 achievements must remain in 2013. This is a new year to make new achievements. DO NOT BE CAUGHT UP CELEBRATING YOUR PAST ACHIEVEMENTS WITH THE TIME THAT YOU SHOULD BE USING TO MAKE NEW ONES.

You must be willing to stand against opposition

The truth of the matter is in this life you will face opposition. There will be people who will think your ideas are not good enough or you are not the right person for this cause or you don’t have the capability to carry out such a mandate.

Such circumstances will require you to be courageous and stand for what you believe in. DO NOT LET FEAR HAVE ITS WAY, stand firm and do not be shaken even if you are the only one who believes in your plans, stand!!!!! Nothing in this life comes easily. So know that in this year 2014 opposition will come but you have to remain firm. Be courageous.  BE NOT AFRAID!!!

I am reminded of a woman called Esther in the bible. After Mordecai had persuaded her to go to the king to ask for help because Haman was plotting to kill the Jews. She was troubled by fear at first because no one was allowed into the king’s courts unless summoned by the king. But she later agreed to do so and she instructed all the Jews to pray and fast for her. And in the end of verse 16 of chapter 4 these were her words…..”And if I die, I die”. Woooooo!!!! That is courage I tell you.

Even in our walk this year opposition will come but we have to be willing to stand for what we believe in even if it means letting go of friends who do not edify us.

Facing your fears

Like Esther we must be willing to face our fears. I mean she knew very well that no one was allowed into the king’s chambers unless summoned but courage took a hold of her to a point where she said if I die, I die. And I believe in her heart she was saying that I will not let my people die if there is something that I can do about it.

You also cannot let fear dictate your future or your walk with God stand firm in His word.

Don’t play safe

Jesus said in John 10:10 (b)” I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly “

Whatever you want to achieve this year GO FOR IT…do not hold back or try to play it safe because you are terrified of people’s opinions. There is nothing stopping you from fulfilling your God given mandate, face your fears and take the risk. Have faith in God. Do not let unbelief take up residence in you. Be strengthened in the Lord and fearlessly walk in your purpose and calling.

Learn to prioritise according to weights

Some things in life carry more weight than others, that’s why it is very important to prioritise. Let the main thing become the main thing. Things like your time in the word and prayer should be the main priority in life. In fact God should be your main priority. There is no other way, if you love God you will spend time with Him in His presence, reading the word, praying and worshipping Him, there is no short cut to that.

If you are a student your books should also be in the top priorities. Now with the extra time that you have left you can look at other spheres of your life that need improvement and engage in things that will help you improve those areas. You can take up leadership roles where necessary, invest in reading, exercising and many other things. When that is sorted you can now fit in stuff like television, games etc.

Do not do things or make decisions haphazardly

One of the biggest things I got to learn in 2013 is to wait on the Lord and to do things in his timing. Doing things without proper planning and timing leads to scattered progress. What that means is you do not see clearly the progress of your projects in life just because there is so much going on and there was no proper planning.

You have the potential to be whoever you want in life. But it is up to you to decide on what you want to see in your life. MAKE THE DECISION NOW!!!!!

Thank you so much for stopping by, you can leave your comments below. Tell us the topics that you want us to cover this year. We are so excited to take this life changing journey with you, I tell you we were born for greatness. May His glory so shine in our lives in this season. Again have a prosperous year.

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Our Line up....

Purpose Driven has the following lined up....

1. Mentorship Programme

The purpose Driven mentorship programme is designed to assist young women who are trying to make in various areas in life. It is open for primary,high school and tertiary students. The program is made to provide guidence in careers, life style or any other challenge that our young women are facing. We realised that while some people may know where they want to be in life, most of them do no have an idea on how they are going to get there. The mentorship program is designed to bridge such a gap by making information available in order to help you plan and strategise for your life effectively.

It is also to encourage young women to get educated because education is one of the most important things in life. At purpose driven we believe knowledge is power.

The mentorship program will consist of workshops all over the country where we will have various leaders sharing wisdom that they acquired in life in their sphere of influence.

To be part of our mentorship program please email us at purposedrivenwomen1973@gmail.com and also indicating that you want to be part of the program.

2. Weekend Retreat

We will also be having a weekeng retreat in September this year where we are going to have various influencial women addressing us on topics like;

- The role of women in society
- women in business
- How to start your own business
- A submitting woman
- Relationships
- Health and lifestyle
- Careers, and many more fun and important topics

This weekend Retreat will be taking place at Magalies Retreat just Outside Johannesburg. The Estimated cost for this retreat is R 700 which includes transport, accomodation for the two nights and meals ( Lunch and supper for Sat and Sunday and breakfast for for sat and sunday)
To register for this event email us on purposedrivenwomen1973@gmail.com indicating weekend retreat.

3. The february series

This february we will be having a series on love and relationships. We will be taking a deeper look into this topics. you don't wanna miss out on this.

Be sure to check out our blog post in Feb, it is going to be great!!!

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Regards
The Purpose Driven Team

Welcome to 2014 Purpose Driven Women

Welcome to 2014 all you purpose driven women. I am very convinced that it is going to be a goood year because we serve a faithful and great God. But the success of 2014 depends on what each of us choose to do with it. God has already empowered us to succeed and no one can stand in the way of your success unless you allow it.

This year purpose driven has a lot in store for you begining from the month of february we have a series on love and relationships, we will be looking at relationships from a deeper contex, that is from God's standard and many other issues that young women deal with and face with in relationships. You don't want to miss our posts this year because we will be going deeper and deepper in the word of God searching for the truth that will liberate us as women after God's own heart. Our main objective is to get you to a place where you see yourself from God's standards.

Purpose driven the organisation sees a generation of women who will impact the world with the abilities that God has given them. We are shaping a new breed of women who will walk in the will of God fearlessly and courageously.

If it is fashion we got you covered, our fashion section of the blog that will launch soon will gives you tips monthly on how to dress modestly as a woman of purpose for work, church etc. We will also cover health issues, sports, leadership skills, life style, advice columns and most importantly education. Yes! we have to get educated ladies.

To those of you residing in Johannesburg, get yourselves ready for the wekeend retreat that will be taking place later this year. You don't want to miss out on this, we will be having very powerful and influencial women talking to us covering topics like a submitting woman, women in business, a kingdom kind relationship, the role of a woman in society, leadership skills, how to start your own business and many more topics. We will keep you updated on any information concerning this weekend retreat. 

The Purpose Driven team is happy and so excited to take this journey with you, leave your comments below and tell us which other topics or areas you want us to cover this year.

Purpose Driven - shaping a generation of women who will Fearlessly serve, impact and change the world with their God given pontential.

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With Love

The Purpose Driven team

What are you wearing this #Summer

Summer is an expressive season. The kind of clothes you wear and the colour of the clothes you wear somehow speak a lot about how you are feeling and for most people summer is that time of the year that they want to chill and relax and just reflect on how good the year has been and appreciate their achievements with family and friends. So most people want to look good during this season but they don’t want to put on a lot of layers since it is very hot.

So in this post Khensani and I will be going through some interesting clothing items that you can have during these season depending on your body shape and how you can rock these items.

Summer Dresses

A chic yellow summer dresses for instance may indicate that you are a joyful and full of life. 

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whereas a black summer dress may indicate self-confidence, power and mystery.

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Summer inspires bold colours such as neon and it is just a fun, fun season where you can have fun with cute colourful outfits. It is important to note that although it is the hottest season and most expressive season, we must remember to dress appropriately as purpose driven women. Dressing for your body type is a key to dressing in a way that is elegant, classy and respectable.

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Whenever I dress, I always want to be defined. What I mean is how I dress should scream who I am and who I want to be. If your dream is to be an attorney or an economist, you dress up like you are already one right now. In essence when you dress, be who you are and be comfortable. Clothes look amazing with a little bit of confidence, nobody will question your outfit when you give it confidence.

 #Summer_Must_Haves

Tank tops. I’m crazy about loose tank tops. They are cool, like literally cool and chic and can be worn with denim shorts, maxi skirts and trousers. Maxi skirts look good on everyone and can be very sexy when worn with a bra top.

Bra top

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Floral and printed pants+Skirts

If you are a risk taking lady, these are for you. They are a definite must have and Solange Knowles rocks them with a white loose tank top. They define what summer is all about and still make a statement of the kind of lady that you are.

Solange Knowles

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A line Skirts

They are everywhere and are affordable. I love them. Mr price and cotton on has them in a lot of colours and even patterns.

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Lace Shorts, Skirts and dresses

Lace is just beautiful ladies and it is a fresh look.

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Sporty Dresses

It is a summer must-have. They are gorgeous and comfortable.

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How to dress for your body type

Pear shaped women look good in wide skirts and strapless tops and dresses. While apple shaped women should grab A-line skirts as they show of your lovely legs. If you are petite dresses are your best friend. Try them with stripes and patterns. For hour glass women peplums look fantastic on you as well as high-waisted skirts and pants.

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I hope this will help you ladies look stunning this summer. But don’t forget that you are fearfully and wonderfully made by God so clothes don’t make you make them ladies. Remember to look good and modestly as a purpose driven woman of God.

Also remember anyone can look chic in inexpensive clothes….Simple accessories complete the outfit.

“I’m not frightened by anyone’s perception of me”…..created for His Glory.

                                                          Khensani Godi

Thank you to the beautiful Khensani Godi for giving us these tips.

Thank you for stopping by, please leave your comments and your favourite summer outfits.

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Lunghile and Khensani

How to live and maintain a positive lifestyle

One of the most precious things that my mom taught me that I will treasure forever is surrounding myself with positivity. My mom would not allow anything negative around her or allow me to talk negative about myself or anybody. In this post I will share some of the things that help me to approach life in a positive manner and in turn inspire me to go out and fulfill my God given purpose with confidence and no shame. Dr Mike Murdock in one of his teachings once said that if you can stay inspired in life you will surely succeed in whatever you want to achieve.

So from all of that I made a decision that I will not allow negativity in my life, instead of looking at what I do not have and start complaining about things that I do not have I choose to be grateful for what I have and when I start doing that I realize how blessed I am.

Things that I do almost every day to help me stay positive

1. Set the tone for your  day

I believe that how you start your day determines how the rest of your day is going to be. If you wake being upset and angry at the world that sets a tone for the rest of your day and you are most likely not to enjoy the 24 hours given to you by God to make a difference in your life and in other people’s lives. I always view a day as a gift from God and an opportunity to make a difference in the world we are living in, so every morning I wake up with that mind set of gratitude to God and that kind of sets the tone for my day.

2. Morning prayer and bible study

Well, I am a born again Christian and I believe in the power of prayer and that’s what I do every day at five o’clock in the morning. So I wake up at five every day to pray and study the word of God and kind of declare what I want to see in that particular day and how I want to treat people as well. I love praying in the morning because I am still fresh and to be honest I know that once I jump out of that bed I might not get time to pray and intimately enjoy God as I want to because as they say “life happens”.

3. Jogging

I seriously love jogging especially in the morning because that is how I get time to kind of plan how my day is going to be and to really reflect on my life and think of the areas that need improvement. While I’m jogging I often listen to songs by Hillsong, Jesus Culture and many more.

4. Daily Planner

The next thing I do after jogging is to visit my daily planner, yes I do have one. I know that some people use their smartphones and so on but I prefer writing things down, there is no particular reason for that it is just a preference. I get to see what my day looks like and kind of plan how I am going to use my time effectively.

5. My positive Board

I am a student and in our rooms at res we have boards where you can stick things like your timetable and other things. Well I use half of it for school work and the other half is called my positive board and that is where I like to stick things that inspire me, it may be quotes, pictures of people who inspire me, my goals, pictures of shoes I want to buy and many more other things. I tell you this works all the time because when I look at the board I get inspired hahahahaha!!!!

6. Books, sermons and documentaries

I don’t read books as much as I would like to, but I always find myself reading a book even though it takes me a long time to finish it. Most books that I have read were by Dr Myles Munroe. I love Dr Myles simply because he helped me to understand the importance of purpose from a very young age and how vital it is for one to know their purpose. I also read some books by Dr Mike Murdock and they helped understand how valuable time is and how it should be managed responsibly. I also love listening to sermons by Joel Osteen to help me stay positive. Documentaries about people who have achieved great things are the best to watch for me because I get to see how ordinary people managed to conquer everyday challenges to fulfill their purpose in life.

7. Eating healthy foods

This one is still my biggest challenge because for some reason I just love junk food and I feel bad after eating it. So I decided to start eating healthily because I feel good that way and it makes me happy to know that I am taking good care of my body, because it is the temple of the Holy Ghost. So instead of snacking on unhealthy junk food which most students around me do I prefer going for fat free packaged snacks, fruits and I also drink a lot of water.

8. Looking good

“When you look good, you feel good”, that is very true so I always try to make an effort when it comes to what I decide to wear and it works all the time. I always tell my friends that what I’m wearing is an expression of how I am feeling that day.

9. Family and Friends

I always thank God that I have family and friends who are always there for me. They support me in every way possible and they are always there for me in times of need to encourage me. One person I would like to highlight is my dad, after losing my mom my dad became both a mother and a father to me. He has gone out of his way to make sure that I move forward with life by encouraging me from day to day to keep on holding on to God. I love you daddy, you are the best dad for me.

10. My Journal

I am one of those people who like journaling the activities that took place in my day. I often do this at the end of the day when I’m reflecting on how my day was and it helps me to always remain grateful because I always realise how faithful God has been at the end of each and every day

So these are the few things that help me to stay positive and to constantly approach life with confidence and courage.

Thank you for reading my blog, leave your comments below and the things that help you to stay positive so that we can help each other out.

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Lunghile

He has captured my heart....

            

I recently listened to a song sang by Matt Stinton from Bethel Church called your love is extravagant. The lyrics to this song just removed another veil and made me see the love of God in another dimension. It made me realize that we cannot fully walk in love until we understand the love of God for us, by fully walking in love I mean it will be difficult for us to love other people and to do everything in love.

Ephesians  3 (KJV)
¹⁴ For this reason I bow my knees to the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, ¹⁵ from whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named, ¹⁶ that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might through His Spirit in the inner man, ¹⁷ that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, ¹⁸ may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height— ¹⁹ to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.

Apostle Paul in the above scripture talks about something so very powerful that if we were to understand it and soak ourselves in it our whole lives will be changed. For a very long time I read this scripture but I could never understand what Paul was saying but I thank God for the Holy Ghost for he leads us into all truth. In verse 17, we can see that one receives this love by having faith in Jesus Christ, so by receiving Christ into our lives we are also receiving his love for us but it does not just end there. 

The Scripture continues to say that being rooted and grounded in love (what love?), the love that we have freely received by faith. So how does one get grounded in this love, because yes, we have received it by believing in him who first loved us. But what does the scripture mean by being grounded? Being grounded means being fully conscious or being fully aware of something. So when we are fully conscious and aware of the love we will be able to walk in it.
 

So in order for one to be grounded in love, one needs to receive this love first and then get to understand this love through scripture. Yes! through scripture, in my previous posts I have mentioned how the word of God has power to change situations because it reveals to us who God is and in turn who we are because we were made in his image. Meditate on the word day and night and I tell you it will change your life forever.

In verse 18 and 19 the scripture says that "may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height—  to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God." This portion of the Scripture talks about knowing the love of God. It is to perceive, that is to know by revelation, its width, length,depth and height. This love is too much that one cannot just know it by human understanding. So that we may be filled with all the fullness of God, this is mind blowing. The fullness of God, because God is love so by knowing and being grounded in love we shall be filled with ALL the fullness of God. Think about that for a moment. If we live with this consciousness we will never see defeat in our lives because love never fails, it always wins. I still say, love is the most powerful force on earth.

While listening to the song I couldn't help it but to just cry, I didn't even have enough words to thank God for his love that he demonstrated through Christ Jesus. I found my self on the floor in my room just in awe of his love. How can one even begin to talk about this love, it is beyond human comprehension one can only understand it by revelation through the Holy Spirit. Everyday I get to see another side to it, it is the most beautiful thing. woooooo! the joy that comes with knowing that Christ loves me and he died for my sake and I am seated in heavenly places in him (Ephesians 2:6) is overwhelming. we are no ordinary human beings, glory be to God!

The song says this love covers sin, eh! what a love. Let us soak ourselves in the love of Christ, let us be fully grounded in this love. Let us make time in our daily schedules to spend time in his presence meditating on this great love and let this love perfect your ways, because love fulfills the law (Romans 13:8) hence walking in love means walking in perfection. Yes, perfection 1Corintians 13 shows us how powerful love is;
  ⁴ Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; ⁵ does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; ⁶ does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; ⁷ bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
⁸ Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. ⁹ For we know in part and we prophesy in part. ¹⁰ But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.
 Yes! that is you. You can live a life like that. Just take time in his presence meditating on this truth and it shall set you free. Devour the word of God like never before, get to know his love for you and begin to walk in perfection. Glory!

Below is the link to the song, enjoy.
Your love is Extravagant - Bethel Church

May the love of God continue to grow in you in Jesus Name.

With love
Lunghile